Please don’t Judge Me!!!


So I am still recovering from the wonderful experience I had at Delta State at the National Convention of the Federation of Catholic Medical and Dental Students (FECAMDS). Truly, it was a nice experience as I met many lovely people with sweet and beautiful hearts. In a way I experienced anew, the concept of family and the concept of communal work in the various activities organized for our benefit.


Last time I shared with you our experience on the way to Delta, and the things I learnt from our bible sharing that day on ‘Light on Our Minds’, today I’d like to share with you what I learnt on Friday at the thanksgiving mass. The Gospel passage that day was from Luke 6:35-42 and the Priest’s homily was centered on verses 37, 41-42 where our Lord categorically said, ‘don’t be a judge of others and you will not be judged, do not condemn and you will not be condemned…So why do you pay attention to the speck in your brother’s eye, while you have a log in your eye, and are not conscious of it? How can you say to your neighbor, ‘Friend, let me take this speck out of your eye’, when you can’t remove the log in your own? You hypocrite! First, remove the log from your own eye, then you will see clearly enough to remove the speck from your neighbor’s eye’.


You see, this passage is one we have heard a lot of times, but sadly we do not practice, we rather take it to horrendous extremes and eventually leave the message unattended. The truth is, a lot of us are guilty of this very fundamental message, even in the Christian community. There are many reasons why what our Lord says is important for us. Despite the fact that he is God and all he says is not just true but has direct implications to our own individual life experiences, judging others or condemning them is flawed on many counts. First is, no matter how nice we think we are, no matter how good we think we are, WE ARE NOT PERFECT!!! And that’s the simple truth, the goodness in a Christian is first and foremost a gift, something that he didn’t merit on his own accord and so something he should never see as a right or as something which by his possessing it has made him better or more special or to be preferred by God to other human beings. The truth is we all have weaknesses and our weaknesses may be other people’s strengths and vice versa, but the issue in our day is that certain weaknesses the world or society considers horrible seem to be loudest on our lips and we forget that even the tiniest of iniquities is horrendous to God. (Habakkuk 1:13). At this point the story of the Pharisee and tax collector in prayer comes to mind, despite the fact that we read the scriptures so much and join Jesus in accusing the Pharisees, most of the time we tend towards the Pharisees whom we have joined Jesus in accusing. Continue reading “Please don’t Judge Me!!!”


Empire State of Sex


By: Chibuzor F. Ogamba


Many of us, including me, met the world in a ‘state of sex’, where the ultimate pleasure of human relations is in sex, the ultimate purpose of friendship is sex, the very end of a meeting between two people is sex, the way to hang out and have fun is sex, the best thing to sing about is sex, the very distinction between a man and a woman is with regard to sexual experience. You probably clicked to view this particular post because of the word ‘sex’. The time is upon the world when the totality of the human person is viewed and is defined by what he or she can do in sex. You are either ‘straight’ or ‘gay’ or ‘lesbian’ or ‘Bisexual’ or ‘Transgender’ or ‘Bestial’. The whole world has been so fixed on the sexual experience, that it has applied all its many other errors to this particular experience.


Why then do we get surprised when we start hearing about sex between men or between women when sex between a man and a woman has become so old-fashioned because it has been used up and all its peculiarities have been explored to the ‘fullest’? Why do we get agitated when some of us decide to choose who to enjoy the experience with? Why do we seem disgusted when we hear that a man or a woman does not prefer a sexual experience with the opposite sex, is not interested in being involved with the same sex either, but is more interested in lower animals, I mean, that has not been largely tried. Or should you think it out of trend that others having run out of trying the above options from a one-sided perspective are jumping at the idea and embracing the opportunity to try it from another? Even as we speak, I am sure many frustrated citizens of our world have put on their thinking caps for newer sexual experiences. Continue reading “Empire State of Sex”

Love Hurts

I hear people sometimes saying that they are not open to love or not ready for it because they do not want to trust anyone, they have probably experienced the pain that comes from betrayal and the pain that also comes from not being loved back, at least not in the same way they have loved. The funny thing is that these people are in relationships, many want to go into relationships with the caveat, ‘no love allowed’, some, even our peers in this age, view ‘true love’ as something weak and naïve, something cuddled up in romance novels and religious books, something idealistic and not in any way representative of the real and current situation of things in the world. The reason most of the time is betrayal and unreciprocated love.

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An Ode for your Love

The first day I saw you; the very first day I set my scouting, evaluative and superior eyes on you, what I saw was different from what I see now; the simply dressed, unassuming, seemingly malnourished figure about whom nothing was probably spectacular was who I saw. On that occasion what I felt was different, my head leaped but my heart was as cold as though nothing had happened. I can remember the exact item that sparked up these reactions- that old brown-colored wrist-band which had imprints of the longings of my head, no wonder it leaped. It was as though the usual task had come for the mind, a task so simple but yet so difficult. I felt I was on familiar ground, little did I know that the waters in which I confidently went fishing were uncharted.

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Let It Love

After having a discussion with my friend, who for the record I do love very much,last night, I woke up to attend the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass this morning only to hear some sermon about the nature and the beauty of love. One of those times I feel God is actually playing a prank. 
I had complained to my friend about how I had struggled not to love him the way I do because I felt I gained nothing from it, I could barely find a reciprocated affection and care, and I felt I was literally playing the fool. Earlier in the year I had kept my distance from him, particularly because I wanted to stop, it was so difficult, we kinda ceased to be friends in the way we used to be. I knew what I was doing, I knew it was a step in the opposite direction, but nevertheless, I continued, yeah I did till I was tired.

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Found Him Yet?

I am a Christian, In fact, I am a Catholic. Day by day I come into a deeper encounter with what the essence of Christianity is, you know, something not everybody easily gets these days, something many people got in the past and was the attractive force for bringing so many people into the Christian Faith. You know what I am talking about?

Not to worry, you will soon. One of my favorite quotations from the Bible is a sentence of three words, each time I think about it, it opens up a deep ocean of discovery that many times, I am not even ready to delve into. A statement so profound, many thinkers and theologians have meditated on its depth for ages. It may actually be the answer to many atheists and indeed religious people who are in search of who or what God really is. You know what that sentence is? God is Love! A description of that other being that is so deep I doubt if John, though he was called the beloved one, actually understood the entirety of its depth, of its mystery.

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I Speak Of Love

Love! Something so powerful, something so beautiful, something so special. At the heart of human desires, at the very foundations of human existence, lies this word made of just four letters, this word that is yet bigger than four, that expresses something bigger than itself, that expresses something bigger than the person who pronounces that word.
Love! Something many if not all do want, but something that has been subconsciously pushed far away from our reach, something people no longer believe exists, something man has bastardized and reduced to what it is not. And people wonder why the world is so sad, why life seems unfair, well isn’t it because the very essence that gives life its fairness has been divulged from life itself and separated from life? Life without love is now imaginable, it is a life that has lost all its beauty and fairness. A life that is sad and adorned with darkness and gloom.

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How it began…with love!

The holy scriptures tell us that God is love. (1John4:8), and that is essentially what He is, Love. in my previous write-ups I have written about some of the essential characters of this love that we speak of, namely, that it is never contained in itself, it is never individual or personal, that it generates community, and that God who is love, and for that very fact exists in himself as a community of three persons, the trinity.
When I say love is not contained in itself, I mean to say that love always seeks expression. In love, there is always the lover and loved. The very reason for creation to have come about, is that boundless love, could not be contained in himself, and so, like Fulton J. Sheen said, love overflowed. We must remember that before the creation of the world and all that exists, God existed in boundless happiness, boundless love, and a wonderful community of the trinity. He was not in need of love, or friendship, or service. The simple thing that happened in creation was that love sought expression, as it naturally would, just like the sun cannot hide the fact that it is the sun because it shines, giving life the plants of the earth and shedding its rays of light on all that we are able to see, so too, was God who is love, at creation. And we, with all that exists are the expressions of eternal love. Such that we are product of the boundless love of eternity, we are made by love, and our ultimate purpose is love. since God made us for himself, we are made for love.

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